5 Ways to Improve Your Marriage
Posted by Danielle Bean in Marriage on Thursday, January 15, 2009 12:00 PM
A quick list to serve as a reminder to myself as much as anybody else:
1. Thank. Thank your husband for something he does that you usually take for granted. It’s easy. Repeat after me: “Thank you for washing my car.” “Thank you for remembering the milk.” “Thank you for getting up every day and going to work at a job that pays the bills.” Pick something and thank him!
2. Serve. Now don’t get all defensive and righteous on me. Why should you not serve a man you have vowed to love till you die? It doesn’t have to be fancy. Ask him if he’d like a drink. Start his car. Make him a snack. Rub his back. Run an errand for him.
3. Accept. You know that one thing that he never does or that he always does that drives you batty? I’ve got news for you—it’s not going to change. You’ve thoroughly expressed your opinion about the dresser drawers left open, the wet towels on the floor, and the dirty dishes sitting on the kitchen counter. Accept that this is part of who you married. Stop seeing small things done or left undone as a personal attack against your very soul. Kiss your tiny cross and move on.
4. Forgive. That argument you had last week that you never quite felt “resolved” about? Forget it. It’s old news. Deal with today—it’s got enough issues of its own. That really bad thing he did years ago and never did apologize for? Let it go. Holding onto quiet grudges is exhausting and poisonous. Let it go, breathe deep, and move on.
5. Pray. Ask God to bless your husband and bless your marriage. Offer up small sacrifices for the benefit of your husband and your marriage. If you notice weakness in your husband, ask God to give him grace he needs to improve. Think about him throughout the day and ask God to help him with whatever task he is working on. Ask God to show you ways to be a better wife.
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