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Can a Busy Life Be Prayerful?

Ask a Priest vol. 23

Q: Between caring for my four young kids and husband, running my household, and working a part time job, I sometimes find that prayer time gets pushed aside again and again until it’s almost non-existent (or only on Sunday mornings). I need some help prioritizing my prayer time and making my faith a larger part of my everyday life. Any suggestions?

A: I am sure our readers will have plenty of suggestions for you, as you are not alone in facing this challenge.  I offer three ideas for you to mull over.

First, keep the goal in mind.  Taking specific times out of the day just for prayer is a means for deepening our friendship with Christ.  The deeper that friendship, the more all of our activities take on a supernatural tinge, becoming ways of serving, loving, and praising God (which is what we were created for, and what gives us lasting happiness).  We are shooting for a mature spiritual life that enables us to live every moment of the day in God’s presence.  So the goal is a seamless integration of activity and prayer, of service and contemplation.  Understanding this and remembering it may help reduce some of the tension you feel and free you up, interiorly, to accept the limitations of your schedule and its necessary demand for flexibility.  But embracing flexibility doesn’t mean jettisoning your daily God-time!  As the Catechism reminds us (#2697): “…[W]e cannot pray ‘at all times’ if we do not pray at specific times, consciously willing it.”

Second, be creative.  Sometimes the obstacle isn’t so much getting time to pray as not knowing what to do in our prayer time.  If that’s the case, look for some advice on how to pray (like this resource, for example, or this one).  You can also weave prayer into your daily rhythm by making it a family thing.  Prayer before meals, a prayer before taking a trip in the car, a prayer before going to bed – accompanying your children in these prayers allows you both to pray and to teach them to pray, without crowding your schedule.  Stopping spontaneously at a Church to visit the Blessed Sacrament and pray, together, for a sick family member is another example, or praying a decade of the Rosary together with your husband before going to sleep. 

Here is some more advice on family prayer. I know a woman with nine children who lights a candle in the living room (near an image of the Sacred Heart) whenever she has an important prayer intention. The candle becomes a kind of extended prayer throughout the day.  Just seeing it reminds her to say a prayer in the silence of her heart.  Find ways that work for you, remembering Christ’s promise that “the one who seeks, always finds” (Matthew 7:8).

Third, seek quality over quantity.  You may be entertaining some unrealistic subconscious assumptions about how much time you “ought” to spend in prayer.  For example, maybe at some point (after a retreat, for example) you made a commitment to spend at least 20 minutes in prayer every morning, pray the Rosary every afternoon, and read the Bible for 15 minutes every night. But then reality showed up, and circumstances made it impossible.  So you simply gave up and didn’t do anything.  A better reaction would be adjusting the commitment (for example, ten minutes alone with God sometime in the morning, and one decade of the Rosary sometime in the afternoon), or adjusting the circumstances.

If you really can’t fit a daily God-time into your schedule (five or ten minutes alone with the Lord, just to open your heart to him and look into his heart), you can be sure that something is wrong; you are over-committed.  Daily prayer should be as necessary as daily food and daily sleep.

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I agree with Father’s suggestions! Here are also a few things I do:
-Prayer in the car on the way to work/dropping kids off at the sitter’s/etc. You can either pray to yourself or out loud with the kiddos. grin

-If you work in an office, you can go to Rosary Army’s website and listen to the audio rosary during lunch or another break. Or, if you have a quiet office, just listen to it w/headphones on as you work! grin

-I pump breastmilk throughout the day and use those 15-20 mins. for prayer as well!

Hope this helps! grin

 

Another way to be creative with prayer—I found Sybil MacBeth’s Praying in Color really invigorated my prayer life.  She also has a version for children.  I keep a private prayer sketchbook, but it is easy to imagine doing this as a family.

Here’s a link:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1557255121/ref=oss_product

 

I find it helps to keep certain prayers posted throughout the house to be prayed during various times of the day—the Morning Offering (prayed before breakfast), Angelus (prayed before lunch), Divine Praises, Anima Christi, Magnificat, Prayer to St. Michael the Archangel (prayed before leaving the house), Heavenly King (prayed before bed), etc.  Sometimes that visual cue can be so helpful during a busy day.  Tying prayers in with the traditional Hours (Matins, Compline, Vespers, etc.) has also been helpful, as is having a specific area set aside in the home for family prayer (family altar, icon wall, etc.).

 

Something I have done to pray the Rosary on a certain day is to break up the prayers to be scattered throughout the day. So I’ll pray a decade while I fold a load of laundry, then another while I’m cooking, etc. By the end of the day I’ve prayed five decades, and been able to fill my day with prayer.

 

One way I have found to include prayer in a constantly interrupted life as mom of three very young ones is to print out the lyrics to my favorite hymns and tape them to my kitchen cabinets. They remind me to sing as I cook or wash dishes. I started doing it just because I wanted to learn all the verses of one particular hymn. But I soon found it was a great form of prayer.

 

I found that getting a Magnificant subscription to very helpful.

The morning and evening prayers are short enough to be doable (very little can’t wait for that length of time) and the books are easy to keep visible so that I don’t forget.

It also helps to tie prayer into something that you WILL be doing. 
The first thing I do when getting up in the morning is start coffee so my morning prayer time is tied to that- normally I start the coffee and start praying before most of the children are up and the day gets busy.

 

For me (and my mother) I am most successful with daily prayer when I leave a Bible or daily missal in the bathroom and read everytime I use the restroom.  I also tell Bible stories whenever we drive and my children and I really meditate on the stories and imagine the details.

 

Wonderful, wonderful tips!  I linked to this on my weekly roundup - thanks for sharing, everyone!

 

I also have four children, four girls to be more specific 7, 5, 3, and 1.  I have always had a hard time making prayer a priority.  I recently started getting up just a half hour early before the girls wake up and have that time with God.  Sometimes it’s a Rosary and a Chaplet, sometimes it’s reading a religious book, sometimes it’s morning prayers to the Holy Spirit, sometimes it’s reading the Bible.  Whatever God lays upon my heart.  I also keep a Christian music worship station on Pandora on my Ipod (docked) and listen to worship music in all that I do.  I try to meet with other women once a week in the morning to pray the Rosary and do the Seven sorrows of Mary.  I pray while taking my kids to school, and we pray as a family at night.  Even my three year old says what she’s thankful for and then any special prayers.  We each take our turn, even my husband and I, first with Praise and Thanksgiving for different things, and then for prayer requests.  We say our Act of contrition together and then pray a decade of the Rosary.  The girls take turns on this.  I’d love to be able to do a whole Rosary (hopefully we’ll get there someday).  Every chance I get a free second, I’ll try to focus on God in some way and talk to him, offering up every bit of stress, or sorrow, every struggle, for the poor souls in purgatory or for a poor sinner.  I’ll spend the day thanking Him for the joys that I experience.  Prayer all of a sudden, through God’s grace has become a huge part of my day.  I hope this helps you in some way and I will pray for you.  It’s so hard to be a good mother when you aren’t being filled up in the Spirit.  May God bless you and your family and all parents, that we may raise children who are driven by God’s Holy presence and purpose.


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