I’m posting anonymously so as not to risk embarrassing my husband… but here is what we are currently dealing with regarding NFP.. (and since I’m posting anonymously I’m going to be blunt so I can get the most accurate feedback!)
1. He just doesn’t feel like he gets enough sex and in the heat of the moment, when he was angry, reminded me of how all the other men he knows go to topless bars and/or have affairs and do I want him doing That?
2. He asks me if he can get a vasectomy or if we can use condoms.
3. I’m trying to give him the next few seasons with no baby/pregnancy so we can go on a few trips because he feels cheated, a bit, about how children ‘cramp our style’ in that department.
4. Although a Catholic, he won’t listen to or learn about the theology behind NFP so I’m left feeling like I’m not married to a Catholic or someone who is even on my team. He doesn’t go to Mass, either, or Confession… when I have bad days his solution is always to “put the kids in school”... (Alright, so that last bit is about our differences concerning homeschooling… sorry!)
It’s fine to find information and support online and in books but when it comes down to it I feel strange and alone and weird. I almost feel like trying to be a better, knowledgeable Catholic puts a strain on my marriage, causes division.
I thought maybe if I just accepted all the sacrifices of children on my own shoulders, gave it to God, had peace, welcomed however many babies might come, did all the vacations he wants regardless of if I’m pregnant or with a new nursling, that at least I’d be doing my part, learning holiness, and making things easier for him instead of resenting our differences and WAITING for him to “get on board”.
I know this is rambly but I haven’t had my coffee yet. Ha! I also know this is all negative, but I don’t need help with the positive things, KWIM? So I didn’t list them. ![]()
Thanks in advance for any time and attention and suggestions. Peace.






