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Why self-diagnosis is a bad idea

Here are a few things I recommend you avoid, things I’ve learned the hard way and I’d love for you to side-step the pain.

1. Never try on your skinny jeans six weeks after giving birth. You feel skinny? That’s great! Back away from the jeans. This will not end well.
2. Never evaluate your life, your mothering skills, the state of your home, finances or marriage when you are having hormonal shifts. Once again: Never. Ends. Well.
3. Finally, NEVER GOOGLE SYMPTOMS. Do you ever do this? It’s a really bad idea. I’ve been doing this too much lately. It leaves me with shortness of breath (a symptom of all kinds of bad things).

I had a recent visit to the ENT where I was so worked up with fear and anxiety because I had been “researching” my issues (code: googling symptoms and finding out worst-case scenarios) that by the time I made my appointment I was almost paralyzed with fear. I had been having pain in my neck and had convinced myself that this was most likely a eustachian tube so wracked with disease that I would probably need some kind of titanium replacement tube. Right? They make those I think. I just knew this was my fate. I was so convinced of this I could barely drive myself to the appointment. I had everyone I knew praying for me and my disease-ridden ear canals.

Turns out that the sharp-shooting pain in my shoulder and neck was from all the running I was doing. My body, it seems, was shouting from the top of her lungs that she just needed a break already. My ENT said maybe I should cut back on the training. I gladly obliged.

I asked our pediatrican recently if all the “self-diagnosis” drove him crazy. He was kind enough to say no. The good thing, he said, is when a mom realizes that the thing she is so worried about is “normal.” This was a positive googling experience I actually just had—when I discovered that the bump between Isabel’s eyes (just above her nose)—that this was a very normal thing in babies her age.

See? Thank the Lord. I just can’t say no to you, Dr. Google. Even though I know I should.


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Right there with ya re: #1 and #2. 
I’m 8 weeks postpartum and have been feeling so svelte and sexy with my nursing figure I thought, “Hey, lemme see…I think I’ll wear *these* pants…grunt…grunt…grunt….okie-DOKIE!  I stand corrected! Not happening anytime soon, I see!”

Dr.Google is not my friend, but I do thank the Lord for reliable pediatric and breastfeeding and food allergy sites that I found (often at 3 am) with my first baby.  I still run things through the search functions on those sites just to get a handle on things now and then.

(Btw, just reading your casual mention about running…I’m going to interpret it as a Holy Spirit “nudging” for me to start up, knees and ankles be danged!) grin

 

Rachel here is what I have learned. Sometimes that pain is from the way you sit when you nurse- if you tend to be in a similar position alot, or if you hold the baby to nurse when you are also at the computer- then when you are kinked like that and then take it to the street with pounding in running, it causes the nerves that are being stressed and inflamed to get more stressed and inflamed. A series of visits to the chiropractor will help with that, but when you are still nursing you can also be sure your ligaments and tendons are still looser from the hormones in your system. So graduated strength training in conjunction with the chiropractor might be alot of help. Also if they give you any muscle relaxers- a hefty dose of Naproxen, then take it and try to get all that really total sleep of the dead relaxation you can get- it helps keep out the kinks. I find that if I stretch and try to work out the back and neck pain after I run, when I am warmed up through stretching I feel better, everything seems to go back into place. One of the first places to start with these kinds of pain is getting some quality sleep- and getting unkinked. That is just what I have experienced, anyway. For what its worth you are so not alone!

 

Thanks! The ENT also suggested I get a massage! I liked this idea as well.

 

When I was having a lot of chronic ear pain that wasn’t caused by infection my ENT sent me to a chiropractor and massage therapy too :D Of course, not long after that I ended up in his chair with a raging infection, wouldn’t ya know. The massage therapy was great anyway. Did little for my ear but if felt fab!!

 

Oh boy, do I ever do this.  It is not good because it means I can turn a hangnail into deep-vein thrombosis or something equally terrible.

Whenever my husband sees me sitting at the computer and staring at medical sites, he puts his hands to his mouth, megaphone-style, and intones, “Step away from the computer.”  He knows me well.

 

I only use medical websites when numerous doctors including specialists have misdiagnosed or come up empty.  I have correctly diagnosed more than one ailment in my family from sinus infections to acid reflux to allergies and have also given doctors suggestions for prescriptions that helped.  If symptoms don’t present in the most common way, many times doctors miss the correct diagnosis.  Case in point:  one of my kids almost died because more than one doctor didn’t diagnose his appendicitis and kept sending him home saying it was the flu.  He didn’t have the classic pain in the side but had generalized stomach pain and fever and vomiting.  I researched and figured out what it was and the next time we went to the emergency room I demanded a white blood cell count which they then did.  It was way high and he was taken to by ambulance to another hospital where they had a pediatric GI specialist who had him in surgery within an hour.  His appendix had burst by that time.

Due to malpractice costs, the medical community is more and more urging people to be their own health care manager and not just cede the role to their doctor.  For this to happen we have to be free to research.  However, the trick is know how to and how not to research on the Internet.  I have learned on my own but there should be classes on it.

 

Monida,
I think we just need to be advocates for ourselves and our families.  Twice I went to the ER with pain in my left side.  I knew it was an ovarian cyst, but of course they didn’t believe me.  Until, finally they did a sonogram and said “You had a cyst that just burst!”  The last time it happened I was at my job, and it presented itself differently at first, and I went to my chiropractor.  She thought it was not my sprained ankle causing my dizziness and shakes, but something to do with my ovaries. This time I called my gyn and got in right away. Yes, it was that darn cyst yet again. And that night the pain was there.  Geeze.  And yes, I used Google to diagnose myself the first time.

 

I think I know what you are referring to Rachel in regards to looking up information and it causing a fear that is not from God. Based on articles I have read of yours, I think you are a pro-active type who likes to research a subject or situation to bring wisdom and clarity. I am all for that! knowledge really can be impowering, and research is a great way to find answers and understanding. It does become a problem however, when we convince ourselves of the worst before even getting to a doctor. Your situation is a perfect example. You were perhaps ready to schedule a cochlear implant and the Dr had you cut back on your running due to muscle strain. It always come back to that simple word…Balance. we must work like it depends on us…and pray like it depends on God. I enjoyed this post. Gets one to think about important issues. Good Job, Rachel.

 

Yes…balance! I agree that too much medical googling can cause undue worry. I also know how many times it has saved me a doctor bill or helped the doc do his job. Most recent case: My niece has undergone a year’s worth of testing with one of the best health care facilities in the world…and the next step was scheduling an invasive biopsy. In a last effort to spare her this, my BIL scoured the internet until he found a particular test that this world class doctor simply missed. The doc said: “Didn’t we run that test already?” Nope. Results were negative. Diagnosis=Perfect health. Now if only they could get all that time and money back! Not to mention the worry and fear.

 

I joke that I have my MD from Google. I do do a lot of research on medical issues/situations on the net but usually off sites like Webmd and into the more doctor directed ones. I really like emedicine. I am one of those people where the unknown is always worse than any reality but I am also cognizant of the fact that the chance of me or my kids having that 1 in a million diagnosis is…1 in a million.
Old medical saying, “When you hear hoofbeats you think horses, not zebras.”

 

Karen - I am going to have to steal that line - I also have my MD from Google!  raspberry I use the same websites you do but I have learned to NEVER NEVER open a conversation with any of my doctors with….I recently read on the internet.  I have 4 boys 3 of which have significant medical conditions and I really can’t inagine not having the internet as a resourse and support system.

Even my “skinny” jeans now have a small amount of spandex in them.  :(

 

A few weeks ago, I was sitting at my desk at work when my jaw started to hurt, and I noticed it was swollen on one side. I was confused and curious, because it had been fine when I woke up, it had been fine when I ate lunch, and why would it just start hurting and swell up out of nowhere? I went on WebMD. I was told it could be mumps. or cancer. or AIDS. Then I called my mom (who is in dentistry, and takes care of people’s mouths for a living), and she told me it was likely a clogged saliva duct. Put a warm compress on it. The pain was gone in 15 minutes. WebMD apparently doesn’t even mention the harmless possibilities, but points you directly to life-threatening illness.

 

Funny. Been there. Done that. All of the above. Have connected some interesting dots on a health issue for one of my kids that I would have never thought to piece together for the doctor had I not googled. And I’m sure it would have been an equally long and expensive wait for the doctor to come to even the right question—had it not been staring at me on google. That said. I know what you mean. I’ve had fleeting moments of despair sure I had some life-threatening ailment only to have nothing but an equally fleeting pain. And I don’t even want to revisit the postpartum “jeans” episode. I’m sure it will have lasting psychological implications ... maybe I should google that ...

 

I refuse to Google symptoms. I did it with my first two children and swore off of it with the third. Days and WEEKS of my life have been spent in fear because of those Google sessions. Even when I just wanted advice about how to alleviate a symptom, I would inevitably be warned that the symptom was an indicator of a life-threatening illness.

I now simply try to pray for prudence when noticing something “weird” with myself or my children. The more children I have, the more I realize just how many “weird” medical things they may each have at any given moment…most of which are always nothing!

 

Haha, I do that too. Googling all kinds of symptoms. Thankfully though, I usually know enough to weed out the worst advice so I don’t panic. lol. I also know that there is nothing better than a Dr. when you need medical advice.

 

Ha ha!  I just put on jeans today for the first time postpartum—the ones 2 sizes bigger than pre-pregnancy were none too loose.  I lost all but 8 lbs the first week postpartum, but those 8 probably aren’t going to go away until I stop eating ice cream constantly and begin exercising, huh?

 

Oh, how I wish that were the case!  I’m 4 weeks postpartum, and I feel good, but I know better than to try on the pre-pregnancy stuff.  I’ve lost 30 of the 50 pounds so far ... but there’s still the 10 from the first pregnancy too!  Hopefully without the desk job now it’ll come off better over time smile

 

Googling symtptoms can put your anxiety thru the roof it’s true.  However, knowing how to research medical literature and studies is essential.  More people need to be their own advocates in the medical world—doctors do not know everything and there are different opinions on everything.  Make sure you are a well educated patient!!

 

Good point, Beth. 
Here’s my own personal favorite “Me & Dr.Google” success:  I had an infected nailbed (called a “paronychia”) on my right index finger for over a year.  I am right-handed.  In the grand scheme of things, I know, “Whoop-di-do. Cowgirl up.”  But it was taking over my entire finger tip, and so painful that I couldn’t hold my kids’ hands, so it was time for action.  I saw my primary care doc, a hand surgeon, and an infectious disease specialist, w/o luck, for various reasons. 
Want to know what Dr. Google told me?  Moms get these a lot b/c of the constant dishwater hands, plus diaper changes, etc.  48 hours of topical Miconazole (yes, the cream used for vaginal yeast infections), and it was GONE!  I felt quite smug, but mostly, relieved! grin

 

StephC: “Cowgirl up!” LOL.  I tell my kids (even my girls) to “Man up” all the time.  Have to switch to this (even for the boys!!).

I do think the internet is useful for expanding our knowledge base.  In between my son’s bopsy and the results, I scared myself stiff with late nights on the computer, but when the doctor went over the results, I knew what he was talking about (even though he used really big words).

Rachel: I’ve done both chiro and massage for sports/stress related aches and I’ll take massage first every time.

 

Learned #2 the hard way a number of times. I just need to post that note on my fridge! I don’t google much anymore either. There is way too much gossip, hearsay and things that give you unnecessary worry on the internet!

 

I soooo needed to read this. I am the worst about googling stuff instead of just going to the doctor first. I am the self-diagnosis queen!!! So glad I am not the only one that has this problem!  What I have learned from my panic and fear is that I have such little faith! If I truly believed what I professed, I would know God is in control and he will not give me more than I can handle. Jesus I trust in You!!!


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