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NFP Can Work With Irregular Cycles

navigating the tricky times

Unusually long, short or irregular cycles or amenorrhea (the absence of cycles) make NFP more challenging. But you already knew that, right?

Fortunately NFP does work just fine, regardless of how irregular your cycles are or whether you even have cycles, and it even works without requiring you to abstain four weeks out of the month.

Normal cycles can be anywhere from about 25 to 40 days long and may vary in length by 5 or 6 days from cycle to cycle. So, for example, even your cycles are sometimes 26 days and sometimes 28 days and sometimes 30 days long, that is still considered normal and regular. It’s also not usually a cause for concern to have a single abnormally long or short cycle once or twice a year. The human body simply isn’t a machine and some variation in how fertility unfolds is to be expected.

Truly abnormal cycles can have many causes. The most common, and times when abnormal cycles are actually perfectly normal, are during breastfeeding and in the last few years before a woman enters menopause. Disorders of the thyroid, adrenals, pituitary or glucose metabolism (as in PCOS) can cause abnormally long or irregular cycles as can some medications (including some antidepressants).

If you are too young to be approaching menopause and are not breastfeeding, but still have persistently abnormal cycles it is important to find a doctor who is willing to determine why because many of the conditions that underlie abnormal cycles can have serious long-term health consequences.

Birth control pills do not ‘regulate’ a woman’s cycle. They simply eliminate her cycles altogether by supplying her body with a constant supply of artificial hormones (rather than the varying levels of hormones that occur throughout a normal cycle) and cause to her bleed at regular intervals when she takes the placebo pills that start each pack and the hormones are withdrawn.

Even worse, birth control pills do nothing to diagnose or treat whatever is causing cycle irregularity and so leave women walking around with any number of untreated hormonal disorders. Every woman deserves better medical care than that! (Read more on the overuse of the pill from Dr. Mary Martin, OB/Gyn.)

Most disucssions of NFP and irregular cycles focus on how to avoid pregnancy, but the information that can be obtained from an accurate NFP chart can be invaluable for couples who are having difficulty achieving pregnancy. As with the overuse of the pill, there is the tendency to jump in and treat infertility with drugs and procedures (including those that are always immoral like IVF) without taking the time to understand where the problem lies.

An evaluation of the effectiveness of the Billings Method for sub-fertile couples attempting to achieve pregnancy found that a whopping 78% conceived in an average of less than 5 months (these couples had, on average, been trying to conceive for 15 months before learning NFP), including 37 who had previously attempted artificial insemination and/or IVF without success, simply by learning the Billings Method. Similarly, the Pope Paul VI Institute’s NaProTechnology combines the Creighton Model of NFP with morally acceptable medical treatments for infertility and achieves much higher success rates than result from the use of IVF for similar conditions.

Tomorrow, more on postpartum NFP.


Comments

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Great Job, Sara, and welcome to your guest blogging week!

This is the #1 question or concern I get when I present NFP to friends. I think you did a great job hitting the main points.

I started out with Billings and then discovered Napro/Creighton model about 4 years ago. You are right in saying there is a method that is acceptable and that will fit each one’s personality and preferences. Creighton did that for my husband and I and can’t say enough positive things about it!

Blessings and thanks for your posts!

 

So true! After Baby #1, my first cycle came back when he was 9 months old. The cycle lasted 70 days! At the time, I was pumping irregularly at work and nursing regularly nights and weekends. Two year later, we were pregnant with Baby #2. I lost her in a miscarriage, and I did not have a cycle for several months afterwards. I am now pregnant with Baby #3. I am living proof that NFP works even for irregular cycles. If I may, I highly recommend that couples actually take the NFP class rather than simply read the textbook. In my opinion, a couple misses a lot by learning NFP via book only. There is soooo much more real-life information to be learned from other couples.

 

Can you address those “last few years before menopause” that you speak of? I’m in my mid-40s and frustrated beyond belief. This cycle went from a long but poky menses straight into fertile mucous. The last two times this has happened, the fertile mucous period was very long, about 11-12 days, and then I only had 5 or 6 days before menses started again. Sometimes I have 21 day cycles. Sometimes I have 34 day cycles. I’ve never been regular, but this is nuts. I’m ready to abstain until after menopause, but not only would that not go over well with the Mister, my post-o libido is so low, I’m afraid I’d never want to have sex again. (P.S. Having another baby is out because of health issues acquired during my last “elderly” pregnancy.)

 

If you are consistently noticing mucus immediately after your period ends, and it seems to be lasting a long time, it may be that some of what you are noticing isn’t mucus at all, but some kind of discharge not related to fertility. It may also be that you aren’t really ovulating during what seem to be unusually short cycles.

If either of these is the case, then the guidelines for avoiding pregnancy are a bit different and you would probably have more days when you could be confident you were not fertile. But in order to figure out what is going on I (or some other NFP teacher) would need to be able to see your actual chart - or at least ask you questions about it. The information you have posted here just isn’t enough. Please feel free to email me and I would be happy to review your chart with you. Or see my next post for info on how to get in touch with someone else who can help you sort all of this out.

And hang in there! That much variation in your cycles means that menopause probably isn’t far off. I don’t know if that’s good news or not, but at least the confusion will end when your cycles do.

 

I would love to attend a day long “refresher course”/pep talk with my husband on how to do NFP.  It’s been 12 years and four kids since we first took the course.  Do you have any information on how to find something like this?  We live in southern CA.

 

Check the main website for the method you learned for a directory of teachers in your area. Most are happy to do refresher courses and pep talks.

 

Thanks for addressing the different questions we have all posed.

I am looking forward to reading about post-partum and the pre-menapausal times and how to look for signs of returning fertility.

 

I have PCOS and have struggled for years but i recently purchased the DUO fertility monitor and after three months i am now pregnant (fingers crossed it remains that way!!!) My friend had used clearblue but she was very impressed with my duo fertility monitor and impressed by its capabilities - it monitors so much and records it all for you. I needed the 99%+ accuracy with my condition so fellow PCOS sufferers, i highly recommend this especially!!!

 

The oestrogen provided in the BCP (birth control pill) may be enough to control menopausal symptoms if you happened to be going through it whilst on birth control pills so in a way yes it could mask the fact that you were going through the menopause (depending on the level of oestrogen you are on) . Having said that, the night sweats can be side fx of the pill.menopause

 

I must agree that many ob-gyns are masking a woman’s underlying issues with birth control pills.  PCOS, ovarian cysts, breast tenderness are all curable, yet, we have doctors giving them more estrogen in the form of pills which makes the problem worse.  Most women are estrogen dominant as it is with hormone based products, plastics, etc.


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