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Daily Lenten Meditations

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  • Pray Light a candle. Every time you pass that candle today, offer a prayer of thanks. Don’t ask for anything. Just thank him.
  • Fast Don’t cut corners. Even if no one will know, complete today’s work thoroughly.
  • Give Touch is a powerful thing. Make an effort today to touch your children: a hug, a shoulder rub, a tousled head -- especially the bigger ones
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  • Pray Make five minutes in the morning, at midday and in the evening to be still, silent, and alone, only asking God to infuse your soul with his will.
  • Fast No noise today. Turn off the TV, the radio, the iPod. Find God in the silence.
  • Give Pay particular unsolicited attention to your least demanding child today.
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  • Pray Begin a gratitude journal. At the end of the day, jot down five things for which you are grateful. Think upon these things.
  • Fast Remember the first time you had a moment alone with your first child. What did you promise him? Do that. Be that.
  • Give We can only expect what we inspect. For every task you assign today, follow through and before it’s truly finished ensure that there is praise from you.
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  • Pray “My sheep listen to my voice. I know them and they follow me." -- John 10:27
  • Fast Every time a child interrupts you today, stop what you are doing and look into his eyes as he talks.
  • Give “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” -- Blessed Teresa of Calcutta Speak kindly all day long.
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  • Pray Ask God to show you how weak and small you are. Open your heart to see it.
  • Fast Don’t argue today. As much as possible give up, give in, give way.
  • Give When you are tempted to put on the TV for kids today, pull out a stack of favorite picture books instead. Invite the kids to join you on the couch.
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  • Pray Take a walk, even if it’s cold or raining. Leave your iPod at home.
  • Fast Think of someone whose life you are tempted to envy and then choke out these words: Thank you, God, for the blessings you have given to X. Help me to see my own.
  • Give Think about the kind of person your husband married. Be that person for him today.
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  • Pray "Love consumes us only in the measure of our self-surrender." -- St. Therese of Lisieux
  • Fast As you go about your daily routine today, remember that you are expecting someone very important for dinner tonight. Together with your children, work towards your husband’s homecoming as if you were expecting to welcome a king back to his castle.
  • Give “You can do nothing with children unless you win their confidence and love by bringing them into touch with oneself, by breaking through all the hindrances that keep them at a distance. We must accommodate ourselves to their tastes, we must make ourselves like them.” -- St. John Bosco
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  • Pray Take this quote to prayer today and listen to God’s answer: “Real love is demanding. I would fail in my mission if I did not tell you so. Love demands a personal commitment to the will of God.” -- John Paul II
  • Fast Stop looking for encouragement and approval. Genuinely encourage and affirm someone else instead.
  • Give Let your child choose a huge stack of picture books (use that word “huge” when you ask her to gather them). Read them all to her today.
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  • Pray Persevere. “He who does not give up prayer cannot possibly continue to offend God habitually. Either he will give up prayer, or he will give up sinning.” -- St. Alphonsus Liguori
  • Fast Don’t forget that the only pedestal you need ever stand on, is the one your husband and children build for you.
  • Give Focus on your home today. The world can find another volunteer, but your husband and children have only you.
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  • Pray Insist on quiet from all your children during naptime today. Pray the Divine Mercy chaplet.
  • Fast We’re half way through. Compare yourself now only to yourself when Lent began. Tweak the plan.
  • Give Reach out to a local friend today. Reconnect.
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  • Pray Ask God to make you humble and lowly.
  • Fast Don’t compare or complain. Do compliment.
  • Give Pack a picnic and go somewhere to eat it with your children. If the weather is prohibitive, build a tent in the living room and it eat there. Sit on the ground with them. Be fully present.
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  • Pray Sometime before bedtime tonight, make time to pray with and for each of your children.
  • Fast Rise a little earlier and bring your husband breakfast in bed. (If it’s too late today, plan for tomorrow).
  • Give Plan a date night.
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  • Pray Give thanks for food, clothes, and shelter. Listen to His plan for stewardship.
  • Fast Clean out the refrigerator today instead of eating lunch. Pull everything out and wipe it all down. As you do it, thank God for the food he provides for your family.
  • Give “We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty.” -- Blessed Teresa of Calcutta
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  • Pray Before you read or do anything else today, pray this prayer, taken from the writings of St. Louis de Montfort: Lord, help me to imitate Mary's deep humility, lively faith, blind obedience, unceasing prayer, constant self-denial, surpassing purity, ardent love, heroic patience, angelic kindness, and heavenly wisdom. Amen.
  • Fast Give up thinking things have to be perfect.
  • Give As you do laundry today, bless the person for whom you are folding. With every crease, offer a prayer.
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  • Pray For a few minutes tonight, after your children are sleeping, kneel beside their beds. Let your breath rise and fall with theirs. Entrust them to the Father and thank him for lending them to you.
  • Fast Let go of self-recrimination. “There is still time for endurance, time for patience, time for healing, time for change. Have you slipped? Rise up. Have you sinned? Cease. Do not stand among sinners, but leap aside.” -- St. Basil the Great
  • Give Do not say “In a minute” or “When I finish this” at all today. Instead, put aside your agenda and meet their needs (and even some wants) immediately and cheerfully.
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As I Have Loved You

Applying Christ's words in unexpected places

A week ago I had a phone conversation with my dear younger sister, who is a self-admitted perfectionist.

She was upset about a mistake she’d made that day.  It was a fairly minor thing and the consequences were going to inconvenience only her personally, but she was still beating herself up about it.  “What kind of person is so stupid that they [insert mistake here]?” she kept repeating.

I made her stop the self-flagellation and helped her put the incident in perspective.  I pointed out to her that if someone else she knew had made a mistake like hers, she would never call that person “stupid,” so why did she think it was okay to be so unforgiving toward herself?

After a while she calmed down and we got off the phone, but I’ve been thinking about the incident all week.  I love to give advice (what big sister doesn’t?) and I’m happy I was able to help my sister, but I’m painfully aware that in this particular case, I’m not good at following my own advice.

Humility is a virtue, and penance can be a good form of discipline.  Too often, though, I translate that incorrectly to mean that beating myself up is okay.  I often spend days recalling small errors in judgment or silly words that slipped out, wondering how I could have been so “stupid.”

Ironically, this often distracts me from the pursuit of true humility.  I am unable to do a realistic and loving assessment of my faults and to ask for extra grace from God in those areas if I’m obsessing about honest mistakes.  And honest mistakes are not really signs of shortcomings at all, unless you consider being a human and not a robot a shortcoming!

I know that God has called me to live my life, with the help of his grace, in loving those around me with my best imitation of his perfectly just and perfectly merciful love.  I know I am supposed to try to love all people in this way.  I’m just not sure where I got the idea that “all people” doesn’t include myself.

This evening I talked to my sister and, happily, she seems to have taken my advice and moved on from her mistake.  In honor of her resilience, I’m going to ask God to help me stop beating myself up so that I can have clarity to see the areas in my life where I truly need his grace… and so that as I love myself more kindly, I’ll be able to love those around me better as well.


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Amen Arwen you are helping convert me to this frame of mind. I recently confronted this head on when I wrecked my car by backing over some concrete that nearly tore my front bumper completely off. I was talking to a co-worker and remarking what an idiot I was when he stopped me and told me both he and his wife had done the same thing within the last year. He told me he knew I wouldn’t think of either of them as idiots for what was an honest mistake—misjudging the location of the concrete and its height—so why did I consider myself to be an idiot? Since then I have been trying to ease up on myself. It’s nice to know I have company in this pursuit!

 

I am w/you on this one, too, Arwen…I am my own worst “enemy”/critic to be sure.  Thanks for this lovely, thought-provoking piece!  God bless!!!

 

Thanks for a wonderful article!  Someone once pointed out to me when I was being hard on myself that if I could truly see myself as I am before God (humility is being truthful), I would not be surprised to see that I am not perfect and I would trust God more to be my all.  Perfectionism is not perfection.  When Jesus told us to be perfect as our heavenly Father, he did so in the context that God our Father makes the sun shine and makes it rain over good and bad alike.  He meant that we should treat everybody with the same love (without being partial), not that we should be perfectionists.  God knows us well and never asks us for impossibilities.  I hope those thoughts will help others as much as they have helped me in my life.


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