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Stand By Your Man

Coffee Talk: Marriage

Posted by Danielle Bean in Marriage on Thursday, January 05, 2012 7:00 AM

(Join each day’s Coffee Talk discussion: Mon: Parenting; Tues: Open Forum; Wed: NFP; Thu: Marriage; Fri: Education; Sat/Sun: Homemaking)

Struggling in your marriage? Have some relationship advice to share? Have a marriage success story to share? Have a man/woman question? This weekly thread is the place to do it.

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Posted by Carolyn A on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 10:08 AM (EDT):

Good morning! I’d like to ask for your prayers please for my husband and our family. He was with his mom last night as she passed away peacefully. He’s had an extremely stressful couple of months with his mom’s illness (she lived 200 miles from us), working out-of-town for seven weeks, the holidays, a new baby, problems with his job, house hunting. He joked that we were going to tackle all of life’s major stressors in a couple months - birth, death, job change, moving.

I know right now he needs me, and I’m not with him - I’m home with our little ones. Please pray for the grace for us to get through these next days and of course for the repose of his mother’s soul. Thank you so much!

 
Posted by ViolinMama on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 10:11 AM (EDT):

Oh Carolyn!!! I am so sorry! Praying for you!!!!! Bless you all, and your husband, for such a loss.

 
Posted by StephC on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 10:47 AM (EDT):

Carolyn, I will pray for you and your husband.  I think I might remember you posting about this previously, the “trifecta of stress” so to speak.  God bless you all.

 
Posted by Mary Therese on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 11:17 AM (EDT):

Will definitely pray for you and your husband. We have just gone through a similar situation, and I was grateful I was able to travel with my husband—that has not always been the case. Will pray for him and his family—and you as well.

 
Posted by Susie on Friday, Jan 6, 2012 12:05 AM (EDT):

Carolyn, I will pray for you.  My husband lost is 93 year old mother on Christmas Day.  Fortunately, he was able to fly there a few days before (she had a stroke), and while she was never able to speak, he knows she was aware of his presence.  None of us were able to go, as the expense of just his airfare was $700, but he did have the support of a couple of good friends in his hometown.  So he was gone from a few days before Christmas until December 30th.  He was so happy to get home to be with all of us, but it really hit him when he got back to work this week.  His company shuts down for the week of Christmas/New Year’s, so no one knew that he had this loss and everyone was asking about his “holiday”.    We had the similar stresses of moving to a different state, changing jobs, and having a baby about 10 years ago.  It was very stressful - I can’t imagine facing a death as well.  God will give you the strength that you need.

 
Posted by ViolinMama on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 10:10 AM (EDT):

Standing by your man is right. I would like to ask for some prayers that I have been refraining from asking too many outside my circle. I would like prayers for my marriage. We’re in a season where I am SO grateful for the sacramental graces, and the true belief in the vows we made. If we had made more worldly vows - I think most of us and our marriages would be like those in Hollywood - fleeting and fast.

I would have never thought I would need prayers for my marriage. Up until September we were fine. But then, things fell apart. I learned (of course though he did it to protect us, and shield me from pain!!) we lost our house - 3 days before we had to move out of it. The foreclosure process had gone on 2-3 years without me knowing (when I did notice something - he could easily explain it away). That month revealed to me that while I KNOW he did these things under the huge weight of being a provider and fear of failure, I obviously lost a chunk of the trust and foundation of our marriage. With the house lost was also learning of 5 additional credit cards I never knew we had (we NEVER used cards, only debit or cash - I thought). Cards he used to help me stay home as a homeschooling mom. So now we have $20,000 to pay back - and his credit is ruined, and since I was on the deed too, my credit has tanked.

I’ll wrap this story up (though I am blogging about it the last few months) with saying I know we will make it. That is the blessing of our faith, the blessing of the sacraments. It is simply GETTING there that is overwhelming, depressing, and yet at times - joyful. I am asking for prayers for peace, reconciliation, and the prayers as we now tackle the finances together, get marriage counseling, and learn to fully forgive. This will be a blip on our screen (I pray) one day. I know God takes anything and redeems it. So, I’m not saying “Why Us?” but “Why not us?”. He has been there every step.

Thank you ladies. Sorry it has taken such time to ask for more public prayers. Praying for you all!!!

 
Posted by StephC on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 10:45 AM (EDT):

ViolinMama, I will pray for you and your husband today.

In HIM there is no darkness…only Light.  Let the brilliant Light of Truth reach every corner and crevice of your lives so that you can see, accept and love each other all the more honestly.  Be merciful with your spouse, just as our Eternal Bridegroom is eternally merciful with each of us.  I’ll include the prayer for mercy that concludes the Divine Mercy Chaplet. 
“Eternal God, in Whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us so that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent but, with great confidence, submit ourselves to Your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself.” AMEN!

 
Posted by Sheila on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 12:02 PM (EDT):

I just went over and read some of your blog.  Please know I admire your courage and your dedication to your marriage and your faith!  You have made some tough choices, and I think are on exactly the right track.  I’ll be praying for you and your husband.

 
Posted by Carolyn A on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 10:31 PM (EDT):

Praying for you, too. I attribute a lot to the sacramental graces of marriage! It sounds like you have a great attitude, and with God’s help, you’ll get through this.

 
Posted by Beth on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 11:12 PM (EDT):

Praying for you violinmama for healing, wisdom and direction for the future.  I pray you can work out all the emotional, spiritual and practical things that need working out.

 
Posted by Claire on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 10:51 AM (EDT):

I’m praying for both Carolyn and Violin Mama.  So sorry for what you’re both going through.

 
Posted by denon on Thursday, Jan 5, 2012 5:23 PM (EDT):

Praying for you very much.  That is heartbreaking and you have to deal with all the peactical mess along with the emotional pain.  I will truly ask God to put his arms around you.  Today I have been doing research on Retrouveille as my husband has been TOTALLY resistant to doing it, but finally today told me to find him info. and he will consider it.  From what I have read so far, I think that if ever in the future you have the heart, time etc. it may be very helpful.  In your circumstances there are scholarships to pay for it.  Even if it not for a long time, hold onto it as a possibility for hope and healing.

 
Posted by Mary Beth on Friday, Jan 6, 2012 9:34 AM (EDT):

I am praying for both of you. You both have such great additudes and such a beautiful faith so I know you will get through this and be that much stronger for it. God bless you all!!


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