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Posted by Rachel Balducci in Family on Tuesday, November 18, 2008 3:30 PM
So we’re having a bit of a dilemma around here and I’m curious to see how you would handle a similar situation.
Our son, we’ll call him “Augie,” has this tooth. It’s a loose tooth, a disconcertingly loose front tooth that has been hanging by a thread for about five days. It needs to come out.
In order to touch this tooth, and try to remove it, I have to bribe my son. Yesterday, I paid “Augie” one Starburst candy for the opportunity to wiggle his tooth five times. And yes, I’ll admit (with only a hint of shame) that on the fourth wiggle I grabbed the tooth and tried to yank it out. Isn’t that what any reasonable person would have done? I think so. Either way, it was to no avail. That tooth just dangled there, mocking me with its loose toothiness. And of course, Augie rescinded that last wiggle. I felt a bit cheap but mostly aggravated.
Each evening, after our son has gone to bed, Paul and I look at each other and wonder out loud if we should we just sneak up to his room and be done with it. How traumatized would our son be if we pulled his tooth for him while he slumbered? Would that really be so terrible? We could tell him it was for his own good, that we didn’t want to risk having him swallow the thing in his sleep. Or maybe we should tell him he did swallow it in his sleep.
Have you ever done such a thing? I can’t decide if it would really be as horrible as it seems. Mostly, I want to know why I can’t just leave it be and quit thinking about that tooth, the one calling my name, begging to be plucked.
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Oh my! No, I would never pull it out while he sleeps! Poor thing would be scarred! Tie a string around it, tie end to doorknob, slam door—over so quick, he won’t feel pain.
Being that my son is an agonizingly slow teether, I’m experiencing the opposite tooth issue with one tooth teasing us by peeking out from the gum and not descending. (What’s wrong with this kid? His sister had all her teeth before she was his age?)
But that doesn’t help in your case. I had a tooth like “Augie’s” that was just hanging around and my parents tried every thing. They offered me an apple, offered to tie a string around it and to the doorknob and slam the door, even offered to numb me with ice and then remove the offender so I’d only feel cold. What finally got that tooth out? Mt cousin, a boy, a few months older than me who already lost a couple of teeth told me it didn’t hurt and to just grab and yank! As he said that, he grabbed and yanked my tooth out. Literally, by the time he finished getting the sentence out, I could taste blood and he was holding my tooth! I was too shocked to be upset.
I found out some years later that he received a special visit from the tooth fairy that night with a thank you gift for being her “special helper.” He wasn’t offered that before hand, he just saw my anxiety and wanted to help!
I had a tooth like that as a child and I ended up accidentally removing it myself in a attempt to eat toffee (the tooth got stuck in the toffee and came out as I was trying to remove the toffee from the tooth.
I also had a baby tooth that ended up needing to be extracted (adult tooth was starting to grow in funny), that was less fun.
The ice trick has worked around here with our 2 kids. I have them hold the ice cube (we have those elongated crescent ones) with a paper towel wrapped around the “handle” end. I have them put it RIGHT where the tooth is still attached. After it’s numb enough (and it will be), I have them push a little with the ice cube itself. With some guidance, sometimes that does the trick. If not, I try to convince them to “check it” themselves. Since it doesn’t hurt at all, I can usually convince them to tug a little. Then it usually comes out. But we’ve never had one dangle that long!
When I was a kid it seemed the thing to do was pull baby teeth. I think I only lost one on my own and it was a dangler right up front. All the others were pulled by the dentist. Is that weird? My siblings had quite a few of theirs pulled as well. It was a pediatric dentist I think (did they exist in the early 70’s?)...I have always been a little suspicious of the pediatric dentist. It always seemed like they pushed a lot of dental work early….maybe just my impression.
I am really laughing right now!
Last week my daughter tooth was “hanging by a thread”. One of the older kids threated to pull it out in her sleep, so she was terrified of going to bed-poor girl—. Finally, one of my older daughters offered her a dollar if she could pull it out for her. Well, it was connected a little tighted than her sister thought, so there was a bit of blood.The next morning my 6 year old ran out of her room with 2 dollars-the Tooth Fairy had come in the night and paid double for her tooth—the normal toothfairy had forgotten all about doing her duty, but the new, older sister tooth failry felt so bad about pulling out her tooth earlier, she took care of her little sister. LOL
Sisterly love is wonderful, and sometimes it saves the Momma money!
So funny. Yes mom eventually you will be able to let it go. One of our kids waited forever, finally pulled the tooth and walked around with it all day. She lost it tossing dirty laundry down to the basement.
(BTW you have a rich toothfairy—ours is cheap;) oh and no more undre the pillow, Our teeth go in a cup on the windowsill.)
Tell him you’ll give him the whole roll of Starbursts if he pulls it out himself!!!
We’re very lucky. The PE teacher at my daughter’s elementary school is very well versed in pulling teeth. She does a wonderful job and the kids love having her do it. She’s such a pro, people have contacted her during summer vacation and Christmas break to pull their children’s teeth.
Getting the tooth out is no problem. Unfortunately, our tooth fairy has issues. It’s not unusual for our tooth fairy to forget to collect the tooth for up to five days in a row. Our daughter has started making signs for her bedroom door and fashioning a pouch for the tooth to go on the door. She just lost another tooth on Saturday and not only can the fairy not remember at a reasonable time, but we also have no idea where the tooth is stored. I’m of the opinion that our daughter has given up entirely. The worst part is the fact that she’s our oldest; middle child hasn’t started losing teeth and youngest doesn’t have any teeth at all yet.
I can’t quite remember the details of when I was losing teeth, but my mom’s a dental hygienist, which has always come in handy when my cousins are in the tooth-losing phase. Someone says, “Oh, I bet your aunt wants to see your loose tooth,” and any cousin is usually very happy to show it off - and my mom usually just reaches out and pulls it without a word. She’s a professional, though, so I guess she can just tell whether it’ll come or not, and I don’t think she traumatizes them much at all.
Do you have any friends in dentistry?
On a sort of related note (following Mary’s comments about the generosity of the tooth fairy), my friend told me that her daughter just lost a tooth, and she remembered half way through the night that the tooth fairy hadn’t come yet. So, she walked to her husband’s wallet- half asleep, grabbed what she thought was a $1 bill, and tossed it under her daughter’s pillow. You see where this is going, don’t you? Her daughter was ELATED to discover that the tooth fairy left her $20!!! How do you get that back? Yikes.
Two suggestions:
use a square piece of gauze to hold on to the tooth and pull (you or the kid)
instead of the cruel string on the doorknob trick, take dental floss and loop it around the tooth like with half a knot, and slowly tighten the knot so that the floss gently cuts through the tissue thats hanging on. Usually works!
did it finially fall out. i can remember my son’s first loose tooth i was scared of the exact same things. I did bribe him with a computer game that he really wanted and would not let him play it until i got the tooth. i did get the tooth and he played the game.
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