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Email a FriendPosted by Maureen on Monday, May 23, 2011 9:26 AM (EDT):
Thank God for giving us wonderful husbands.
Some Husbands
Appreciating the One You're With
by Rachel Balducci in Marriage on Monday, May 23, 2011 6:00 AM
Mother’s Day a couple of weeks ago had me thinking how women all over our great nation were being celebrated in a variety of ways. If your family is like my family, those festivities were spearheaded by your husband, who was working so very hard to honor you in the best way he could.
Of course, this looks different from home to home. For every happily married woman, there is a husband trying his very best to convey his admiration. He wants to show just how much he cherishes you, and he’s doing this using his best abilities and his own personal sense of style — of which there are many.
Some husbands are fixing husbands. They fix what is broken. They are men who love the challenge of a broken washing machine because they can take that machine apart and figure out how to repair it. They tinker and toil and find the problem. Then they fix that problem and put everything back together. It’s not that they don’t want you to have a nice new machine, but if it ain’t really, truly broke, don’t replace it.
Some husbands are shopping husbands. They show love by going out and getting the new item. These husbands in general know they are better off running to the office and making some money so they can hire someone else to do the job. That’s okay, the job gets done and the way they show love is signing the check.
Some husbands are advance men. They see a need in advance and jump to the task. These are the men who offer to pour a glass of wine for their mate because they can tell she is getting really, really tired at the end of the day. She doesn’t need to say a thing — he picks up cues along the way.
Some husbands will do anything you ask — all you have to do is ask. These men have a heart of gold, but do not generally look beyond what they are working on right this minute. That’s okay, because they have a giving attitude and the key is to not get critical about the fact that you always have to ask. Just ask already and they will do whatever it is you need.
Some husbands always need a project. They can’t sit still and are always in search of the next thing to do — there are lawns to mow, sidewalks to edge, a garage that needs to be organized. They are always on the go, caring for their family by staying busy.
Some husbands want to just be — they are the type who embrace their role as a human being, as opposed to human doing. These men want to sit and relax and enjoy their family by having conversation or shooting hoops in the driveway or watching a game together. This can be challenging for the wife who sees true progress as marking things off The List. These women would be wise to sit back and appreciate how much their husband loves their children, and that what he is working on is far more valuable than any accomplished chore — he is building memories and relationships.
Of course, all husbands have bits and pieces of these traits. I am always surprised when I think of my man as being one way and then he goes and blows my theory out of the water. I make peace with the fact that attorneys put in long hours and then out of the blue Paul leaves work in the middle of the day to bring home a new washing machine to replace the one that died.
The key to appreciating your husband is not to look at all the ways things could be better, but to appreciate and love the goodness of the way things are. Some husbands can’t sit still, some would prefer to relax on the couch. The mark of every truly wonderful husband is not a romantic ideal of perfection, but a heart of love that manifests itself in a million different ways.
— Faith & Family Live blogger Rachel Balducci also blogs at Testosterhome. This column originally appeared in the Southern Cross.
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Posted by Jackie on Monday, May 23, 2011 12:22 PM (EDT):
My husband is one of those who will do anything if I just ask. In the beginning I used to get all whiney and dramatic about the fact he didn’t possess the supernatural power of reading my mind in any given moment, LOL, but now I do just ask and relish in the generosity he gives when he just knows WHAT to give. Also, with a man like this, the up sides to this quality are his honesty and simplicity, which have blessed me in many more ways than I could’ve anticipated.
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